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Giving Up control

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ImageRecently, I realized how much of a control freak I am. I have a moderate type A personality. I am very goal oriented and I like to see things get done. I also like to solve problems, even if they are not mine to solve, which leads me to take on more than I can bear. I like to make sure things get done and that they get done well. I hate it when nobody takes initiative to do things, and so I just volunteer to do them myself. This is probably why anxiety is a thorn in my flesh… a weakness. I worry when I have problems that I don’t know how to handle or when I cannot please everyone around me like I usually do. I feel overwhelmed when I have too much load, which is often. I think I’m super woman sometimes, but God reminds me time and time again that this is not the case.

My most recent, unsolved issue involves my adopted dog Sammy. Over the years he has developed behavioral issues, which make unsafe around children. My husband wants to get rid of him, especially since we are expecting our first baby soon. I understand his concern, but I cannot help but worry about what’s going to happen to my dog. He has had a rough life and is fearful. I am afraid that going to a new house will increase his fear/anxiety and thus make him more aggressive. I am afraid he will end up at the pound. I am afraid he will be put down.

My family doesn’t want me to get rid of Sammy. They have grown fond of him too and have the same concerns I do. They say they can keep him, but they don’t know how to handle him like I do, so I worry about that. He needs plenty of exercise to get rid of his excessive energy and he needs discipline. Unfortunately, my family is too busy and they don’t know how to properly discipline dogs. I don’t know what to do. I cannot please everybody and I cannot guarantee that Sammy will be okay. I don’t like not knowing what’s going to happen. It makes me anxious.

Here’s a thought… how about letting God handle it? I have tried so many things already and it doesn’t help. It seems the more I work at it, the more overwhelmed I feel. My Father is probably just waiting for me to stop being so stubborn and come to Him for help.

Too many times, we Christians fail to take advantage of the benefits and riches we have IN Christ (Rom 9:23; 11:33; Col 2:2). A Christian worrying about what’s going to happen in the future is like Bill Gates’ daughter worrying about money. Hello?! Do you realize who your father is? Your dad’s a billionaire! Why are you worrying about money issues? All you have to do is ask him for help! He loves you as the daughter that you are and he is not stingy. Doesn’t it sound foolish if you think about it?

Guess what? Our Father is much greater than Bill Gates. He is The Most High God! He is the Creator of the Heavens and the Earth (Gen 1:1)! He is the God of Abraham, Isaac, and Jacob! He is the God that opened up the red sea to deliver His people from slavery (Ex 14). He is the One that delivered Daniel from the lion’s den (Daniel 6). He is the One that was fighting for His people in the time of Joshua, defeating all the nations they came through (Joshua 10:42). No military in history has done what the Israelites did with the help of the Lord! Moreover, He is the God that loves us so much that He sent His Son to this earth to save us (John 3:16). He is the Great I AM (Ex 3:14). In Him we live and we survive. Nothing in this world occurs, if it is not by His will. Can God help my dog Sammy overcome his fears and aggression? Can He enlighten me with new ways to approach the situation? Can He provide a way for my family to have more time to dedicate to Sammy? I can picture God smiling and saying, “I can do that in my sleep.”

In front of my computer at work, I have the following scripture written:

Be still, and know that I am God” (Psalm 46:10)

I added the emphasis on the “Be still” part. It is hard for me to do, but I am ready to stop fighting God and surrender to His will. Every time I think about my “problem” and begin to worry, I immediately remind myself that God is going to take care of it. I don’t know how or when, but I do know that He is. He always does!


  • Felicea

    Jeremiah 10:23 tells us that it is not in man that walketh to direct his own steps . Unfortunately, as Christians and humans we have this notion of “I-ism” – if I don’t do it won’t get done, if I don’t provide no one else will, if I don’t step up who will take initiative? Until we understand that God is waiting for us to Be Still and acknowledge who He is and His ultimate power, we will put more on ourselves then necessary and run around in circles trying to figure out why we have been wondering in the wilderness for so long.

    At times we may not understand life or why things happen, but we have to consider the lilies of the field and the birds of the air. If God provides for them what will He not do for us? Matthew chapter 6. Letting go is not easy, however, letting go and putting our faith in our Heavenly Father knowing He will guide us makes it easier .

    Your love for Sammie is evident and your concerns for him are genuine. Have you considered what may be best for him? In life we think we know whats best for ourselves and try to make decisions accordingly, however, what we think is best may not be what God thinks is best. If knowing Sammie has issues with past abuse and aggression, you and your family are unable to give him the sufficient and direct care and attention needs. Wouldn’t you want to help him find that? Wouldn’t you want to be fair to him and find a family or a person who is willing to provide what he needs? The space that he needs? The attention that he needs? I know you may consider that as abandonment or that you are the only one that will take care of him, but God is the ultimate provider. With relinquishing control and having faith we have to be fair and selfless; it’s not our will but God’s ! Think about Christ; he prayed that His father’s will be done. What makes us different?

    Relinquishing control takes daily practice and committed faith.
    Proverbs 3:5-7
    1. Trust
    2. Lean not
    3. Acknowledge Him